The courses of true love never did run smooth.
~ William Shakespeare
When the Love Guru says “love is painful”, will you listen to him? If a Swami comes to the town and says “being alive” is painful, you will pay heed to him. Hence I, the Love Guru say that ‘the pain of love is the pain of being alive’! The dilemma of life and love, the perpetual trauma…
Has the Love Guru said “Love is a bed of roses” anywhere? The Love Guru has never portrayed love as a smooth petal of an orchid, Love is abstract, love is arduous and for sure love is painful as well as fitting itself, to the definition of life.
Is love something that bestows such pain? What is the point of being a witness of cupid? Somebody might ask. The answer is quite simple and inevitable. It’s the course of nature and the existence of human beings.
“I am in love”, these are the beautiful words to hear, to say... But is that true? Why do we fall in love? Why does a person suddenly become so important, so special in our life? Why do we feel we just can’t live without them? Why this pain…? Why so much pain in love? Why?
Do you need answers to all those questions? No, people aren’t intending to answer questions. They just want to be happy. But just being a lover with dazzling thoughts and vibrant dreams won’t make a person happy. There are always side effects of falling in love…
I, the Love Guru would like to introduce you a new phrase, in fact this has roots of aged old philosophical streams. ‘Absolute love’ or ‘unconditional love’… All you have to do is if you love a person with your life, drop your mask, drop your ego, drop your conditions and expect nothing in return.
In that way, you will learn to live without expectations and you will learn to forget what you want but bestow what your soul-mate wants. But beware; never get used by a person. This lesson is only for the true love of yours. And even if there is no one in this world to care about you, you care about someone you love. That won’t make the pain of love go away, but your sufferings won’t last…
Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.
By Pathum Punchihewa
Published on Daily Mirror (07th April 2011)