The courses of true love never did run smooth.
~ William Shakespeare
When the Love Guru says “love is painful”, will you listen to him? If a Swami comes to the town and says “being alive” is painful, you will pay heed to him. Hence I, the Love Guru say that ‘the pain of love is the pain of being alive’! The dilemma of life and love, the perpetual trauma…
Has the Love Guru said “Love is a bed of roses” anywhere? The Love Guru has never portrayed love as a smooth petal of an orchid, Love is abstract, love is arduous and for sure love is painful as well as fitting itself, to the definition of life.
Is love something that bestows such pain? What is the point of being a witness of cupid? Somebody might ask. The answer is quite simple and inevitable. It’s the course of nature and the existence of human beings.
“I am in love”, these are the beautiful words to hear, to say... But is that true? Why do we fall in love? Why does a person suddenly become so important, so special in our life? Why do we feel we just can’t live without them? Why this pain…? Why so much pain in love? Why?
Do you need answers to all those questions? No, people aren’t intending to answer questions. They just want to be happy. But just being a lover with dazzling thoughts and vibrant dreams won’t make a person happy. There are always side effects of falling in love…
I, the Love Guru would like to introduce you a new phrase, in fact this has roots of aged old philosophical streams. ‘Absolute love’ or ‘unconditional love’… All you have to do is if you love a person with your life, drop your mask, drop your ego, drop your conditions and expect nothing in return.
In that way, you will learn to live without expectations and you will learn to forget what you want but bestow what your soul-mate wants. But beware; never get used by a person. This lesson is only for the true love of yours. And even if there is no one in this world to care about you, you care about someone you love. That won’t make the pain of love go away, but your sufferings won’t last…
Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.
By Pathum Punchihewa
Published on Daily Mirror (07th April 2011)
5 comments:
Living without expectations is similar to living without dreams. Unconditional love is good for cheaters . . . to have fun with any one.....he..he..he....
Cannot agree with you akkandi. You talk about Irresponsible freelancers. There is unconditional love, it’s not live without dreams but a concept goes like this, ‘expect nothing just share everything’…
Love is about bestowing. And it's the universal theory as I believe. If there is pain, it means there is something else other than love in between. All the best lovers as we meant to know such as Buddha and Jesus, never expected anything back and hence their love was universal. But now all of us have mixed the real meaning of love with lot of other things. That's not wrong by the name of the existence. It's not love which keeps us here. It's just those other things in the relationship that we used to call as love.
It's what I got in to my mind now and completely shouldn't be true :D
"But just being a lover with dazzling thoughts and vibrant dreams won’t make a person happy. There are always side effects of falling in love… "
side effects? will love be painful ? inevitable pain too is optional. understanding the suffering of a bond is exceptional. once understood , suffering will no longer be an option.
can there be a bond without hopes, dreams etc? there can be, but the love wont exist , but a bond will exist for one or more reasons.
love .. can be painful at some times. but is it a fair definition? why do we choose a special person instead of choosing just another human being? hasn't it got a thing to do with our happiness ? .. pain is possible, but not always. hence pain is optional too...
just a personal thought.
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Im so so sorry.
i will just refer to u as anon1.. well u dont have to be sorry, ur thoughts are welcomed, well it is imposible for genral human to accept a bond without a hope and dream, humans do want and allways do expect somthing in life ... sadly thats how a person "lives".
If you have fallen in an unconditional love (not saying you haven't... i wouldn't know) you would understand the inevitable pain but its hard to understand unless you are in the shoes of that person. its something you cant prevent but can learn to accept for the sake of the one you love
well if we choose a person completely cause they have everything we like is just being selfish and well impossible, to truely love a person is knowing we cant completely satisfy our happiness but knowing we love them anyway
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